From a young age I’ve had ‘large breasts’. I’m not going to go into sizes or anything, but they were there, they were big and they got noticed. I specifically remember my high school years being plagued with guys making comments about my breasts and how I should show them off more. This kind of attention was mainly from the boys in my classes, but it also came from older men. At the time I didn’t think much of it but now that I look back on it, it’s quite upsetting.
And now? Now, I don’t often wear low cut tops/dresses very often, and when I do I tend to feel uncomfortable. Friends, family and even random men have told me that I should ‘be happy that [I] have big breasts’. I’m sorry I didn’t know that having smaller ones would make me any less satisfied with my life. I am more than happy with the size of my breasts, that’s not what I’m getting at here. What I’m not ok with is how they are treated by other people.
Just last year I was openly groped in a public area. I was in a capital city, during a celebration with plenty of people walking around. The guy thought it was ok to grab my breast and squeeze it, and when I went to grab his hand to make a spectacle of him (something I picked up from Japan) he just laughed and shrugged his shoulders, then walked off. None of the people around me batted an eyelid.
The main reason I am writing this post is because this isn’t the first time something like this has happened to me, and I’ve also heard from friends that similar things have happened to them. I don’t care if someone wants to wear a low cut top or chooses to cover up their chest – wear whatever makes you happy and comfortable. Nor am I saying that women with smaller breasts don’t receive this kind of attention either. I just feel that women should be able to dress how they like without men feeling that it’s ok to make a sexist comment or even grope a woman. Whether you have big or small breasts, you shouldn’t that you’re being objectified because of them. I’m tired of women being objectified. It happens constantly. I hear people say well that’s how it is – does that really mean we should just settle? Sorry, no.
There is so much more I could say on this topic alone, but maybe that is better left for another time and another place.
I’d love to hear your views and opinions!
And to those who will read this and think ‘Oh she’s just a big ol’ feminist’ – please feel free to comment about why you think it is ok for women to be objectified and men aren’t. By the way, I’m for equality, I believe men and women should be equal.
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